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Things that Hold Us Back

 December 30th, 2016

{September 6, 2016}

If you’re reading this blog, more than likely you’ve experienced infertility to some degree. Maybe you’re a patient of FST who is currently undergoing treatment. Maybe you’re a patient who’s already gone through treatment and are reading this in between naps or school drop-offs/pick-ups. But, there’s a pretty good chance you’re someone who’s experiencing infertility and haven’t seen a Reproductive Endocrinologist yet.

You probably heard about us through a friend, co-worker, family member, or even neighbor. Maybe you’ve seen some of our advertisements. You’ve probably been to our website. You’ve checked out our success rates. Maybe you’re even following us on Facebook. In all actuality, you’ve not only heard about us, but have probably heard about several other fertility practices. And for some reason you haven’t been able to make that call.

And you know what? That’s okay. Infertility is an interesting thing. When you’re experiencing it, there’s nothing in the world you want more than to have a baby. It’s the first thing you think of in the morning when you wake up, and it’s the last thought that flutters through your mind as you try to fall asleep. You feel like you’d do or give anything to make it go away. Yet, for many of us — maybe all of us to some degree — there is something that holds us back from taking that next step.

Maybe you’re afraid you can’t afford treatment. For most people, it takes a lot of planning to figure out the best way to pay for it (the same can be said for cars, houses, vacations abroad). But, what I’ve found in talking to past, current and prospective patients is that what they’ve heard about the costs of infertility treatment before actually meeting with a specialist is generally exaggerated. In fact, many times the cost of IVF is less than half of what you’ve heard. In addition, FST has a wonderful team to evaluate your insurance benefits and to help look at all available options to pay for treatment.

Maybe up until now, you’ve been the couple that’s had a hard time getting pregnant. You’ve been the friends without kids and you know how to do that. What you don’t know how to do is be the couple who’s tried IVF. You don’t know how it would feel to trade that label for another one. As crazy as it sounds, there’s a cloak of safety in having not tried the next step. I don’t have an immediate fix for this one. What I can tell you is that your greatest chance of filling those empty arms is by trying.

Maybe you’re afraid treatment won’t work. I’ve had this fear both times I’ve gone through IVF, and I would be lying if I said I don’t have the fear of failure in my mind as I think about going through IVF treatment again. Here’s the thing. More than likely fertility treatment will work for you. The success rates and available technology work in your favor. I can’t tell you what kind of treatment you’ll need. The treatment plan with the highest chances of success is made after a thorough evaluation with one of our amazing doctors. It’s custom fit to meet your body’s needs. Yes, there are times when treatment cycles don’t take. But, don’t focus on that. It doesn’t do any good, I promise. You need to know that just because one particular round of treatment doesn’t work, it doesn’t mean the next round or type won’t. There are SO many options! And we at FST will be with you every step of the way.

Brene’ Brown says “There’s no equation where taking risks, braving uncertainty, and opening ourselves up to emotional exposure equals weakness”. And, she’s right. Making that phone call… sending that email… sitting for the first time in the lobby while waiting for your consultation — it takes bravery. You’re brave, my friend. We’re here waiting to help and give you hope whenever you’re ready.



Hi! I’m a proud IVF mom of two amazing boys, thanks to the expert care at Fertility Specialists of Texas. I know, first hand, how lonely infertility can be, which is why I write personal entries for the FST blog  — it’s my way of helping break through the isolation. To let you know you’re not alone. And, neither am I. If you ever want to chat with someone who’s had empty arms, who knows the heartbreak of this journey, I’m here. And, I’d love to connect: fstivfmom@gmail.com.

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